How To Show A Guy You Like Him

Even if it something terribly boring try to pay attention. When a guy is intently listening to you, you notice. It works the same way for guys.

This one seems a little too good to be true because it is so easy and because we have seen a million girls in movies laugh too hard and make a fool of themselves. A lot of men pride themselves on being hilarious, for example why are “dad jokes” a thing and “mom jokes” don’t exist. It’s because men try to be funny and they want to make us girls laugh. So laugh when he cracks a joke. If a guy I like cracks a joke, I always do!

If he says he loves chocolate chip cookies, make some chocolate chip cookies later in the week (not the next day!) and very casually give them to him and say, “I made these for (insert some reason) and I had some leftover and remember you said you were craving some, do you want them?”

This one is old school, but everyone knows what it means: “I think you are cute. I don’t have a boyfriend and I know you don’t have a girlfriend so I am really just coming up with a reason for us to hang out together.”

Again this is just something that everyone knows what it means. I wouldn’t suggest going back 4 months and liking a picture of him, but if he posts something like it… I mean if you really do like it. I’ve actually heard guys say “dude, she likes all of my stuff on Instagram/Facebook!” in a positive way. They hear the message loud and clear.

Snapchat is possibly the greatest social media app ever invented, can we all agree. But, it is kind of a personal social media, you don’t add just anyone to your friends unless you do social media as your job. Add him and see if he accepts… if he does he might be interested.

You can’t sit in the corner staring at him and expect him to get that your awkward stares mean you think he is hotter than Liam Hemsworth. You are a person who can have conversations with people, you do it all the time. Just go say “Hey, I am digging your headphones, where did you get them?” “Are you in my biology class?” “Have you ever eaten across the street? I wonder if it’s any good?”

Go watch him! And go find him and compliment his outstanding layup, performance, solo, or whatever it is that he did.

We, again, have all seen the movies where a pretty girl flashes a smile and the boy’s heart melts on the screen. Actors and directors aren’t making this up. Smile at him every time you see him, he will eventually pick up on it.

He is having an art exhibit in a weird old building, round up a few friends and go! His band is playing at a hole-in-the-wall bar across town, GO! When you see him afterward to compliment him, like I said previously, how he responds will be a good indication if he likes you too.

If you work with him, know mutual friends, or have class with him there will come a point in your life that you will be going to lunch/diner with a group of people. It’s just a friendly little invite to everyone else, but he will notice that you were the one who did the inviting.

We all know how Jim and Pam on The Office got their start! (If you are one of the unfortunate souls who has yet to see their iconic love story unfold, get on Netflix now.)

If he has one. Men and dogs share a special bond that is almost a little frustrating when you have a boyfriend with a dog. I think my boyfriend might love the dog more than me sometimes, but that’s okay because I love the dog more than him sometimes too haha! But seriously, men and their dogs are inseparable. If he has a picture of his dog on his phone, laptop, or on his desk it is a great conversation starter.

The way to a man’s heart, other than through his dog, is his friends. Remember in jr. high when we would tell our BFF that we thought Nick was cute and by lunch the whole class new and by the end of the day you were boyfriend and girlfriend. The timeline isn’t that quick anymore, unfortunately, but asking his friends if he is single will guarantee that he will get a text knowing you are interested as soon as you walk away.

Automatic, I like you. Just go get it. Or if you aren’t sure if you want to come off that strong, get it from someone else and see next…

Come up with any reason, but just text him. Don’t be too aggressive, but let him know you want to talk to him.

This might seem a little much or be completely creepy or seem like you are trying way too hard, but if you are dead set on getting a guy to like you go chat up his mom for awhile. She will then proceed to go home or call her son and ask him why he’s never asked you out because you are just such a sweet girl. (I knew an ex’s mom before I knew him and I unintentionally did this. But hey, I was in a relationship for almost a year and his mom still loves me!)

Aim the compliment toward him this time instead of his dog, tell him you like his new haircut or the beard his is trying to grow, or even his outfit today. Although, I wouldn’t say outfit… or “trying to grow.” You get my point though.

Weather in class or at one of those oh-so-boring team building exercises at work, when you need a buddy he should be the first person you ask! Team building exercises or a class project are both ways to get some one on one time with him. There is a subtle hint in asking him to be your buddy, but being subtly flirty during the exercise/project will finish the job.

This won’t put a huge sign over your head with a blinking arrow that says “I Like You! Please, oh, Please Ask Me Out!” but it does give you the opportunity to show him you are more interested in him than your Instagram feed.

Make eye contact. Stop awkwardly avoiding him when he walks by or ducking when you see him. Be confident, make eye contact and wave or say hi. It isn’t that hard, you do it to the nice old ladies in the grocery store all the time.

Don’t be too needy, girls, but ask him for help! Let him get you coffee, open doors for you, pull out your chair. From my experience men want to take care of us women, it’s just their nature. Of course they want a strong independent woman, but they just don’t want her to be able to open jars on her own. Let him help with the little things. It is a great conversation starter to ask for help as well, just don’t ask something too big.

 Don’t grope him in the middle of a party, just get close enough that he knows you want to be close to him. We all have our natural comfort zones, the closest is out personal space. We don’t want someone standing literally three inches from our face talking and friends typically stand a foot or two apart when talking so find a happy medium. (REMEMBER! Everyone’s comfort zones are different so be aware! If you think he feels uncomfortable take a step back.)

He invited you to come watch his band play earlier, now it’s time to invite him to your friends bar opening or art gallery exhibit. This is another great way to see if he’s interested because these are both things you could bring a date too. See if he shows up alone.

I don’t think I would suggest Facebook creeping on him, but hey that is the age we are in now so maybe you should. If you find something you both have in common try to subtly bring it up in conversation so he can say, “Oh I love that movie too!” … and begin conversation.